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I AM
NOT A MISTAKE, I AM MEANT TO BE
Greetings Readers;
Many of you have read my book and God has
laid it upon my heart to begin a group
session that discusses various topics which
are examined in the book along with the
discussion of issues concerning sexual abuse
via the website. Many have fallen prey to
this demonic attack and are unable to move
forward due to the painful memories of being
violated. If you have concerns about this
topic, know someone who has been abused and
desire to assist them in getting the help
that they need, please send those
concerns/questions to
glhines@glhinesministries.com
and we will do my best to share with you.
WHAT
IS MY RESPONSIBILITY?
Q: I have a
friend who was raped at the age of twelve.
She was living with her uncle and aunt and
they often had parties. One of their male
friends raped her. She was never able to
talk about it and later she moved and had a
child. Her daughter is now eleven and very
smart, but wounded at the hand of her
mother. My friend is verbally abusive,
often calling her ugly, fat and telling her
she’ll never be anything. She always tells
her daughter that men are no good and they
only want one thing from women---sex. She
won’t allow her to have any male friends or
go to birthday parties of little boys in her
class. I think that because my friend never
dealt with her issues she’s taking a lot of
anger out on her daughter. In addition to
calling her daughter names she often tells
her she wish she had not been born. She
said this is “reverse psychology” to make
her daughter appreciate the home she has. I
disagree. What can I do to make her see
that she’s damaging this child?
A: Anytime
you have suffered any type of abuse your
self esteem is the first thing that’s
attacked. If it’s not dealt with and
healed, then you will pass the negativity
down to others. Ignoring her rape and
trying to raise a child through her hurt
will only be damaging to the child. Hurt
people, hurt people. She has to also
understand the true meaning of “reverse
psychology”. It is a way to allow people to
see something from another angle. Speaking
negatively or using abusive language will
not promote the results she desires. As her
friend you can purchase material that deals
with her issue. Also encourage her to seek
counseling or speak to someone that can help
her to be healed. Please let her know that
calling her daughter names is not helpful at
all. It will only repeat a cycle of pain
that may be difficult to break. Do what you
can to get your friend the help she needs. |
