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I AM NOT A MISTAKE, I AM MEANT
TO BE
Greetings readers,
Thank you being a supporter of the vision
that God has given this ministry to see that
sexually abused victims are healed. Thank
you for your questions. I will try to
answer them so that you may be released by
the truth of the word. If you have concerns
about this topic or know someone who has
been abused and you desire to assist them in
getting the help that they need, please send
those concerns/questions to
www.glhinesministries.com.
WHAT DO I DO?
When I was
seven years old I was abused by my
step-father. This continued for about five
years. I revealed my secret and now my
mother and she now disowns me because she
learned it was actually true. He’s now
incarcerated. What should I do?
I applaud your
courage to tell the truth. I wrote a
chapter in my book entitled “Silence
Strengthens the Hand of the Abuser”. No one
likes to know that the one they’re “in love
with” is abusing another person that they
love. Your mother has not only lost you,
but she has lost her husband and I’m sure
that she has a lot of emotional distress in
her life now. I would make an effort to
call her once a week just to say hi. If she
doesn’t return the call, I would not allow
that to deter my efforts. Send her a card
on a regular basis and most definitely pray
for her. Sometimes, as the “victim”, you
have to find a way to become the “victor” in
a swift manner in order to help others be
free. I know that it is painful for you to
lose your innocence as well as your mother.
I think when the time comes, therapy is a
MUST.
Due to my
sexual abuse I am very physically and
verbally abusive to my kids. As I am
abusing them I see so much of my father (the
one who abused me) in me.
My dear, you
are walking in your father’s shoes of
abuse. You need to be healed of everything
that he has done to you in order to be a
good parent to your kids. In the meantime,
you need to somehow turn that around and
walk in your own shoes and remember how you
felt when you were being abused. Now you
will understand how your children feel. In
the psychological world it’s called a
“pattern of behavior”. In the spiritual
sense it’s called a “generational curse”.
Seek help immediately, because if you don’t,
your kids will fight their grandfather’s
demon of abuse.
My first
encounter with sexual abuse occurred when I
was 11 years old. My uncle (who is married)
was my abuser. This relationship is still
continuing and I am 26. How can I get out
of it? I feel so entangled and
manipulated.
First of all,
do you want to get out? If so, understand
that there are many entanglements that you
are facing. You are fighting against
manipulation – you were taken advantage of
when you were a child; you are dealing with
the transferring of spirits through sexual
contact; you are dealing with your identity
since it was taken at such a young age; a
misinterpretation of sex and it’s use and
definitely a lack of knowledge when it comes
to love. There are many other things, but
right now, if you desire to get out, I would
encourage you to talk with someone you
trust, and call the local authorities.
Depending on the state in which you live,
there is no statute of limitation regarding
laws dealing with sexual abuse. You can get
out.
you are better thAn that, for you are NOT a
mistake! |
